Let’s start this piece of a quirky nature with a disclaimer of sorts that although it is written from a male perspective, it should never be interpreted as misogynistic, which is certainly not how you will understand it accordingly. This is written for the noblest of purposes: to try to ensure eternal marital bliss and bliss come what may. Therefore, whenever I mention ‘spouse’ I am definitely referring to the wife. Various situations arise in households and in husband-wife relationships for various reasons; and emotions abound, floating eternally between the four walls. The best way to handle these emotions, only under certain unhappy conditions, is to reverse them. The investment process must come solely from you, the husband, and promises to be very difficult; but, I assure you, it should be very effective although I don’t have any data to back it up and just throw up typical situations where this unique method can be practiced.
One day they both wake up very late and go about their morning business in a rather lazy way, albeit with a feeling of guilt. Now, in most households the most important aspect would always be ‘who gets the privilege of using the bathroom first’, and this is entirely up to your spouse. You or any of the members can take advantage of the opportunity only when she issues the permission. That day she gives you the green signal to shower first, and in a happy frame of mind you prepare for the privilege. By the time you’re ready to wrap the towel around your lower half and about to go to the bathroom, your spouse shows up with something in his hands and says he has a little business to do in the bathroom and tells you to wait a bit. . You wait sitting in a chair.
After about ten minutes you get a little hesitant and walk over to the closed bathroom door asking politely, ‘Are you taking a shower?’ to which she says ‘no’. You return to your chair with the towel still around your lower half. More than twenty minutes go by and now you become impatient, hungry and even angry. She then comes out saying that she decided to take the bath for such and such a reason. You show your emotions by continuing to sit on the chair, with the towel wrapped around your lower half. Now, she gets angry at your disregard for her generosity and she blames you with baseless accusations why you didn’t go there right away. You obviously get really angry now; you get rid of the towel, put on your shorts and start preparing breakfast, very hungry. All hell breaks loose: her scolding and your inevitable retorts justifying your action that you had no ulterior motives. Her spouse is not in the mood to give in and the morning is almost ruined for her. In such a situation, the process of ‘reversal of emotions’ is good: he flashes a wide smile or a fixed sneer while sitting on a chair without muttering a syllable, and the moment she walks out, he walks in smiling and in silence. The morning and eventually the day are in store for you.
Another good morning you wake up at the normal time and go about your morning business in good spirits. His spouse informs him that since he has work in the afternoon, lunch will be early and tells him to have a light breakfast. You obey very kindly. After that ‘light’ breakfast, your partner sits up in bed talking on their mobile phone. And she goes on talking for hours, seemingly forgetting the ‘early lunch command’, and you find yourself waiting indefinitely, hungry desperate. Somehow you get by with one or two visits to the kitchen grabbing a bite of dried fruit or nuts or cookies. When it becomes intolerable you tell him, still busy talking, a little loudly, ‘You promised me an early lunch, and now I’m starving.’ If you can’t, let me cook myself…’ And obviously all hell breaks loose again. You can easily avoid this by adopting the process of ‘reversal of emotions’: go about your business with a wide smile or a frown and say nothing at all, ignoring growing pangs of hunger like a spiritualist; because peace and happiness is the priority.
You both have an important appointment to attend that day, and you told your spouse well in advance to get ready at the appropriate time without fail. Like most wives, she’s late and even past the time you’re supposed to arrive at your destination. Her casual and indifferent ways infuriate you even more. However, in this situation you are already following the advice of this nullity: wait patiently and remain absolutely silent, without being able to show the recommended wide smile or the fixed smile. You are just a human being. You can’t help but long impatient breaths that escape your lungs and mumble extremely low, monosyllables like ‘oh my God!’ kind of things. Even these catch the listening ears of your spouse and all hell threatens to break out again. Then you understand the peculiar usefulness of following the ‘reversal of emotions’ process in its entirety.
Right or wrong and reasonable or unreasonable arguments hardly matter in the matters of a happy married life. You gladly accept evil if your spouse says so, and your “right” is never easily accepted, a fact to which you must surrender. If you say it’s wrong as ‘bad’, it will clearly work as a trigger to make it erupt like a volcano; never idle, you must understand that too. You see, all for the eternal happiness and bliss of marriage. However, this is not the big picture. On many occasions, your spouse returns to your ‘right’ some time later, making you ecstatic and vindicated; however, he will help himself better if he does not show these emotions too openly. It’s also imperative that you be a perfect listener, which you probably are in the workplace. When your spouse is in an expansive mood and launches into a long soliloquy, you should continue to listen in the most alert position, never interrupting, never getting up or moving, or fiddling with your mobile phone, apart from feelings of boredom or the like that can have. have found in the process.
Of course, you must understand your better half taking into account all the circumstances at home and outside of it that can invariably affect her. In recent times, the pandemic and frequent lockdowns are making your spouse a prisoner in the kitchen with no exits or food packages from your favorite restaurants, and all this easily makes most wives feel stressed beyond measure and irritated all the time. You must understand your better half much more than you understand yourself. If you want to help her in the kitchen, what you should do, do it as she wants, and being very careful that nothing in the kitchen moves or gets dirty on the floor, even if it is spilling a few drops of water. She is likely to make mistakes on jobs he is not used to, and so whenever he makes mistakes, undo them immediately before her spouse finds out. And, always keep in mind the ‘investment’ formula.