What position to make love gives better results? Hint: it’s familiar and comfortable. It fills you up and you can do it even if you are tired. You already know what it will look like and how long it will take. And for a change, you can always add twists to your repertoire.
Experts believe that the good old missionary is the best lovemaking position, but when asked what their favorite position is, many women avoid saying that it is the missionary position, even if it is actually the most relaxing and pleasurable for them. , Why do not they do it. they want to be perceived as boring or even submissive.
missionary position
Think of it this way: do you look better leaning over your man, stretch marks glistening and everything drooping and moving, or lying face up, lips parted expectantly, hair floating on a row of pillows? The missionary position is feminine; he is seductive and exotic. He arches his back, give him your best “come and get me” look and watch the man move.
Of all the positions, this is the most aesthetic. You don’t have to be aware of your body because most of it is covered by his. And for women anyway, there is no performance anxiety. This is a position that everyone can do. Lying on your back is the ideal position to relax and enjoy yourself, and then fall asleep. It’s perfect for the shy, the shy and the lazy.
No other position makes you feel as loving and close to your partner or as comforting to finish. While some women say it’s harder to orgasm in that position, others find it easier because they’re more relaxed.
Basic and boring?
It is the very simplicity of the missionary position that turns some women off. If anyone can do it, she doesn’t want to. Consider the facts. Face to face they can kiss, lick and bite (the mouth and skin are the most erogenous zones), they can observe the expressions on each other’s faces (an erotic experience in itself), their hands are also free to caress, scratch or hold it tight. It’s sexy and satisfying. Also, in missionary position you can affect what is going on, if you know how.
getting it
Placing hard pillows under your hips can make a difference, it lifts your pelvis for deeper penetration. Her husband can ride high or low, leaning back to look or forward to whisper and kiss. You can stretch or open your legs wide to give internal tension. Or she can wrap them around her waist or put one or both on her shoulders for deeper penetration. He can hold your arms above your head, or you can grab the headboard and pull him towards him. (Who said that the missionary is submissive?). You can stroke the base of his penis as he climaxes, or he can lean to the side to stimulate your clitoris.
Or if you just want deeper penetration, bring your knees up toward your chest, then spread them far enough apart for him to get between them. With your calves on either side of his back, you support his weight on the back of your thighs, if you want to move you can rock back and forth with him. The advantage of this position is that the man’s pelvic skin and the base of his penis are all in contact with your clitoris and vulva, with his testicles resting in your anus. Taking his weight this way gives you some control. Orgasm is easier because penetration is deeper than if your legs are straight or sideways.
Orgasm the easy way
If you don’t always climax during sex (and who does?), the good news is that there is a way to make it easier. But the bad news is that you better start practicing those Kegel exercises. Kegel can only help orgasm or you can push down, pressing your labia and clitoris towards your man’s body. Even better is doing the two together, which tightens the entire vagina. Or add a little manual stimulation, sliding your hand down between you and your partner to reach for her clitoris.
The CAT (coital alignment technique) is probably the most complex variation of the missionary position that you are likely to come across. But don’t let that discourage you. It works for everyone, and it’s great once you get it right, stimulating the clitoris and G-spot and encouraging simultaneous orgasms.
Start in the normal missionary position but with the man resting his full weight on you and not on your elbows. Then he has to move 5 cm forward so that his pelvis is on top of yours. With your legs around his thighs, he presses your pubic area up as he moves back so your clitoris gently rubs against the base of his penis. The key is in the pressure and counter-pressure, and in the rhythmic coordination of the movement: a slow and smooth rocking until the orgasm.
“The position is not automatic but a small series of adjustments,” says Edward Eichel, therapist and author of The Perfect Fit (Penguin), who developed the technique. “You never ride or collapse on this and you’re stimulated all the time. When you both feel close to orgasm, you have to wait and let it come to you, there’s no holding on to it. You have to trust that.” It will happen.”
Edward’s study of 86 men and women, half of whom were trained to use CAT, showed a staggering increase in the number of women who orgasm “always or often” during intercourse: 77 percent in compared to just 27 percent in the no-training group. And the increase in the number of women enjoying simultaneous orgasm was 50 percent compared to 4.5 percent.
Sex is not being able to play
It seems that this position should be no more difficult for women to climax than any other. Nerve endings are found around the entrance to the vagina and in the clitoris. So any position that stimulates them will lead to orgasm. Missionary isn’t really about dominance and submission at all, it’s just a convenient sex position. Sex mirrors what’s going on in the rest of her relationship, and if she’s trying new things just because it’s what her husband wants, then she’s being submissive in any position she squirms in.