Do not think for a moment that a man is foolish enough to be manipulated by false flattery. The greatest compliment you can give a man is complete honesty. Yes, flattery is honest, or else it couldn’t be flattering. Lying to him doesn’t make him feel good about himself.
This is not about pointless flattery. It’s about making a man feel good about himself.
Here are the top 10 ways on how to flatter a man. He deserves to feel good about himself.
Most Flattering Tip #1: Men are the hunting providers. Since the beginning of time, your life’s task has been to provide, and the harder you work, the better you provide. Let him know that you know he is there and that he provides for your needs. This does not mean in particular that it is he who brings home the most money. It could be your company, or the rock you lean on.
It doesn’t matter what it gives you. He has given you something.
There are so many ways to be a provider. He can provide tender loving care. He can provide the best laughs. Let him know that what he offers is right for you.
Compliment him by thanking him for being the man who provides for you.
Most Flattering Tip #2: Compliment her great looks.
As women, we spend tons of time and an obscene amount of money pampering our appearance even before we grow up. Our reward is growing up with the confirmation that we are attractive to the opposite sex.
Imagine never receiving a compliment on the way we look. Welcome to a world of men.
He doesn’t have to be built like the Greek god Adonis to have a great body. Certainly, if he is, you are doing him an injustice by not rewarding him for saying so. Tell him how good you think. If you like his warm and cozy chest or his cute little boy smile, tell him so. Praise him, it’s a fair and just reward for all these times he looked at you and said “Wow.”
Most flattering tip #3: Pay attention, watch it.
If you noticed that she’s taken the time to dress up for the occasion, tell her so.
Look at him, if he’s taken the time to shave nice and close, let him know you nailed it. Maybe she took the time to condition or brush her furry lip, mind you.
This isn’t just physical either. Notice if he looks happy or sad and let him know you care.
Most flattering tip #4: Tell him how good he makes you feel.
Every man I’ve been in a relationship with has gone out of his way to make me feel good. Whether he’s been in or out of the bedroom, he’s been vying for my attention trying to make me feel good. Sometimes this has been through simple gestures, and many times the first thing a man has done to make me feel good has been to simply look at me. I think a man deserves to hear how good he makes you feel. When he asks you “how was that?” Don’t turn around and berate him for asking that question. (I know, sure he would have to ask, he didn’t notice that I moved, and what he thought was that noise he was making) he simply asked “how do I make you feel?” in the form of a man from him.
Most Flattering Tip #5: Show him that you trust him.
Don’t think for a moment that he’s flattered that you’re jealous. He hates this. He needs you to know that he is a good and honorable man. He’s sorry girls “I don’t like you looking at that other girl, it’s about me, about me, about me” doesn’t convey any kind of positive message. Many men will find your jealousy to be a complete insult against all the admirable qualities that a good man values.
Flatter your man and complement his values with confidence.
Most Flattering Tip #6: Compliment her skills from time to time.
If he is an athlete, attend his sports competitions. Stand on the sideline and yell his name, call him out and treat him like he’s your favorite star player.
If he doesn’t play sports, take some time to see how good he is at the things he likes to do and let him know who’s the star in his book.
Most Flattering Tip #7: Let her know she was right from time to time.
It happens, it’s hard to believe, but such is life. Sometimes he might have been right. Even on those occasions when he really wasn’t right, maybe he could have had a point somewhere. Acknowledge this. Not only does it feel good, it’s fair game.
Most Flattering Tip #8: Laugh at their jokes.
If he’s trying to be funny, he’s trying to entertain you and would love to hear you laugh. Who cares if you snort when you laugh or sound like you’re about to lay an egg. Let him out, he’s earned the right to hear you laugh. And this makes him feel very good.
Most Flattering Tip #9: Appreciate him and the things he does for you.
Not only are you right to flatter him by expressing your appreciation for the little things he does for you, but it’s just good manners. Don’t just say thanks for the morning coffee, let him know how much you appreciate this thoughtful little gesture. Do it by pointing out some of these small gestures. Its sweetness should not go unnoticed.
Most flattering tip #10: Love him. Just love it for what it is.
Complimenting a man and making him feel good about himself is not submissive “man worship,” it is encouragement to bring out the best in him, and therefore thoughtful to bring out the best in yourself.
My motto is “what comes, goes,” and I sure could use a little praise every now and then.