AGITE [aj-I-tuh] not. That feeling of agitation or anxiety can hit the pit of your stomach as fast as food poisoning. And that’s what it is.
An unhealthy infection or virus. It will stay for days, months or even years. This feeling came to me after the loss of an emotional state or attachment.
The law of human attraction works in two ways:
1. There are traits within you that are like magnets, drawing others to you or pushing them away.
2. People’s ideas try to deeply influence and introduce you to new habits, new behaviors and new characteristics.
When the heart opens, it can sometimes take control of your life. That is, you allow it to think for you instead of what the mind knows to be fact and reality.
My mom used to always say, “Think with your mind and not your heart.” Now I understand. A great thinker once wrote, “above all the heart is very deceitful.” How true are these words?
When I recognized the anxiety
Years ago, my life went through tumultuous changes with people. I couldn’t figure out how to handle a loss. When a friendship ended by acts of betrayal, jealousy, death or deception, I cried my eyes out.
Do you identify with hanging out, lots of laughs, sharing secrets, shopping, etc. with a friend? But, I knew somewhere along the way that there was a breach of trust.
I remember experiencing stomach pains.
Deep, cutting sensations filled my stomach for days. These feelings took away my appetite. They consumed my mind, thoughts and my entire being. (I know this was not healthy).
I did not know or understand HOW to deal with such losses. The lack in my life was having a true friend. It became difficult to trust people because of my loss experience every two or three years.
Really. I remember seasons meeting new people, interacting, developing bonds, and two or three years later, what once was was null and void.
One thing about life is that it sets patterns. People show you patterns. They are consistent or inconsistently consistent.
And when you’re looking for real, true, genuine people along with your experience, you start to notice the patterns.
You become sensitive. Your senses are alert. Different behaviors trigger triggers. It feels somewhat like your powers of discernment are sharpening and growing more. wakes you up
Some can move quickly.
Others are NEVER allowed to open.
Some internalize it and repress it.
Others act like it never happened.
We process pain and anxiety differently and over various periods of time. Here are the 10 ways to manage anxiety:
Prayer consistent with the Scriptures
Tears – Cry when and as needed. Never let anyone tell you not to. Crying is a cleansing process.
Consistent conversations with ONE person, NOT MANY. (Be sure to tell both sides. Healing can’t start just by discussing offenses. You MUST evaluate yourself and his actions as well.)
Working more hours: this band-aid distracts me.
Go out to fun places -Laughter is medicine for the soul.
Acknowledge some of YOUR faults. (It is NOT 100% the other person).
Get closure with the guidance of someone knowledgeable. (A tricky request. Sometimes closure comes with accepting reality, moving on, and letting it go in time.)
Process the facts so as not to think too much about the experiences.
Read and research information about the experience.
If time and space allow, have a final conversation with the other, in which we talk and find common ground to close in a non-defensive way. (If you’re ready to talk in peace and the other isn’t, then it’s wise not to follow through.)
The aftermath of anxiety helps amplify your writing
The consequences of anxiety can take two aspects: due to negative events or positive events. I discover that after processing the anxiety there is more to say, write and help others.
You may be thinking, “Jacqueline, how can I write more powerfully and give advice to others?” Well, just because a “trigger moment” came along doesn’t mean you have nothing to say and your words or courage no longer have incredible value.
Rather, you now have a plethora of details to write down and add to your story, poems, content, characters, or plot.
Writers write and draw mainly from experiences and imagination. Are you able to describe your anxiety encounters in writing?
Can you write in detail an explanation of your anxiety triggers? Is it possible that a new character or story will be formed from one of your experiences?
There is so much power when we write from real, authentic places in our lives. As our character develops day by day and takes on new forms, so does our stories and writing.
All stories, whether they are fiction or non-fiction, reveal one of two types of conflicts in life: external or internal conflicts.
Writing out the conflict helps develop the plot. Also, immediately after the scenario, we should see the conflict before the rising action and climax.
Our awakening lives unfold the same way. There is a setting (where and when things start), the conflict (anxiety trigger), escalating action (trigger events), climax (anxiety attack), etc.
Sequels give us more to think about and write about. We are able to help others overcome and overcome their conflicts because we are the first participants.
In general, I now manage my anxieties maturely. It’s not that I was immature before, I just had no idea or understanding of how to process and accept a loss.
This experience is the case for most. Most people just don’t know. With this in mind, allow others to connect with your writing and stories through transparency and authenticity.
Then start seeing amazing results through the words and testimonials of your followers and readers.
I believe in writing from the heart. I am intentional about touching others with my writing. My writings expand due to my experiences and encounters with different situations and people.
The intense levels of my anxiety open up amazing returns through open doors and outstanding people receiving my gifts. I know this sounds like an oxymoron. But that’s how it usually works.