This article will continue from the previous one titled; Become an exceptional human being.
Here, we will go into more detail about the concept of ‘evaporating the water from our personality’ discussed in a previous article.
Follow these instructions as if you were an alien from another planet who has no idea what humans are like and is here doing a scientific analysis of this strange new species.
Follow these instructions and you will be successful. The first step is to look at children from as many countries, social classes, and cultures as possible. If you can’t travel to see them in person, you can watch documentaries aimed at raising awareness of poverty and disadvantaged children in Africa, Asia, South America, and of course, Western countries. You will see that children have no idea that they are “disadvantaged” in any way.
Looking at children, you will see that when they are young, they have no idea of their living conditions and they put anything in their mouths or examine anything, be it gold or trash, with the same curiosity. Only parents tell them that this is good and that this is bad. They will play with the box the gift came in as much as the gift.
Continue with this observation until you have come to a deep understanding that there is no difference in the being that lives within the body. At that age, children don’t even understand what their body is, that is; Christian, Jewish, Muslim, Asian, Caucasian, black, brown, or green for that matter.
You will have achieved true understanding when you find yourself interacting with adults and automatically jump into the thoughts that this person, whatever it may be, could have been any other type of person depending on where they grew up, in the slums or in the attic.
Over time, you will be able to see the difference between ‘water’ and ‘flavoring’ in every person you meet, including yourself.
While you have been doing this observation and study of children, you should also do the simple but practical exercise of drinking coffee, a soda or any flavored liquid, putting it in a pot or kettle so that you can capture the vapor. and boil. Do this just enough to capture enough vapor so that when it cools down, you have enough to drink, or do a water quality test.
These two exercises combined show you the reality that once mixed, it appears that the water has become something different, yet it is physically and quite simply possible to remove the water from the flavoring. You can even do this with urine and drink plain water.
Humans are not a very intelligent creature. Sorry if this disappoints you, but I’m sure you’ve noticed by now. Human beings need new concepts to be instilled through touch, taste, and personal example. This is how children learn.
In my parenting course, I make a simple point that parents surprisingly didn’t think of. When you are frustrated with your young child, when he does something, you tell him not to do and in frustration yell at him saying; “Don’t you understand what I am saying?”, You are exhibiting how stupid you are, because no, a four year old cannot understand intellectually explained concepts. Any four-year-old would tell you that, if they could explain it in an intellectual way that an adult can understand.
Humans don’t learn by instructions, they learn by personal experience. So even though you may think you know about desalination or reverse osmosis, you really have to do the process yourself and drink that water, to have the truth of certainty that it makes it part of your reality and not just conceptual.
The flavoring
What is the ‘flavor’ of your personality? This is your culture, religion, country, accent, language, taste in food, lifestyle, everything that makes you you. The exercise to show that all you are is simply spice is to study people from as many countries and cultures as you can to discover differences in tastes. For example, my mother taught me when I was young that sushi is gross. How can someone eat raw fish? And until my 20s, I believed that and would never eat sushi. As I progressed through these exercises that I’m teaching you here, I thought about how many people in Japan eat sushi on a daily basis, so I gave it a try, and now it’s my favorite food. I eliminated a taste about what is good or bad to eat.
How about camping, sleeping outside under the stars in a desert? Dangerous? Snakes, spiders, or a scorpion that ended up in my sleeping bag. Yes, they are all there, but a lot of people do it even though you think you should only sleep in a house with a bed raised on the floor, that’s just a taste of your opinions.
Learn about other cultures and religions with their different views on dietary requirements. Is Sunday or Saturday the holy day? Do you cover your head or remove your hat when entering a church or temple? Look at the people who follow those ways of life. Then look at your little children and discover through objective observation that they are not real, you are not real.
That is the truth about who you are. You are not real! You are simply a product of your circumstances. This should be made very clear to you through these specific observations about how adults came to be who they are. Meet a Chinese from a village in China, then meet a Chinese born and raised in a western country. They may look alike, but they are so different that there is no similarity at all.
By now, your mind will have been opened to the truth that the essential YOU is not really who you think you are and is simply a cup of flavored water.
Now the hard part.
Create a detailed description of your personality. You should make this list with your own thoughts, but you should also interview everyone who knows you to get a description of your personality. People close to you, family and friends, and also people you work with, co-workers, employees, and employers.
You are not allowed to say a word while interviewing them. You are only allowed to write everything they say, without exception, contesting or editing in any way. You can repeat the interview with the same person the next day, as you may need time to think about more things. It is important that you tell any of them what the others said, so there are no distractions.
When you have at least five, but preferably more than 10 descriptions of people, compile the lists to get a list of all their traits. Order the list according to the number of people who said the same thing. If everyone says that you are stingy, that goes to the top, and if one person says that you are arrogant, that goes in the end. Divide the list into two columns, good and bad traits.
Now you have a clear ingredient list of the flavors of your personality, the qualities of your character, good and bad. You are now ready to begin the process of ‘Evaporating the water of your personality.‘
Work to eliminate all of your negative traits, one after the other, until in the end you only have sweet flavors. Work on each character trait, until you reach the point where you are free from self-centeredness or negative qualities.
Yes, this seems like a very long and huge task, but it is not really that important. It doesn’t take you any time out of your day to observe yourself once you know what you are looking for. You are not really who you think you are, so it is not personal and should not provoke self-pity, which if it does, it is a bitter taste to remove, because they are flavors added to you, rather than really you.
Empty your heart and mind of all your worldly worries and you will see that, in reality, the things that worry and bother you are not real at all. They are just bitter and sour flavors that have been incorporated into you as you have grown.
The bottom line is that it’s not really you. You are pure water, as you were when you were born. Everything that makes you who you are was added to that vessel called your mind and has contaminated it.
I admit that this process can take months until you see any change, and years for it to be a significant change, but really, is making widgets that important? Are the things you do with your life that important? Is there anything that compares to a caterpillar that turns into a butterfly?
When you ask people what is negative about you now, and ask them again in a few years, you will see how valuable this evaporation process really is.
To view the previous article, click here: Becoming an Exceptional Human Being.