So how do you introduce the idea of male chastity into your relationship once you’ve asked your Beloved for it?
One very powerful way is to seduce her into making love, because as you do so you can start talking to her (softly and subtly) about male chastity, almost carrying out the story or conversation you’ve already had.
That is why I said before that if your relationship is in such a state, sexual activity is not only low due to apathy, but it is rejected and avoided due to lack of desire, then chastity will not help you and in fact , it will. make things much worse.
As you may recall, I suggested that you approach the subject in an exciting and romantic way, rather than blurting it out at the most inappropriate moment. I confess, I find it extremely frustrating and infuriating to read the supposedly real-life accounts of men who simply drop the idea of male chastity on their wives like a bag of stones and say with ease: “… and she accepted it“.
Which reminds me of the funny story I wanted to tell you.
Some time ago in one of the forums (can’t remember which one) someone posted about how he was going to put my blog on his computer screen and then “accidentally” forgot to close it, which means his wife would eventually see and ” get the message “. Unfortunately, this will almost certainly never work for anyone and the most likely reaction is an irate wife who thinks you are some kind of pervert.
So the guy left and I didn’t think about it anymore until he privately messaged me through my blog saying that he had thought about what I said and realized he was right – hinting won’t help. And then he went on to tell me about his new plan: he was going to buy a chastity device and surprise her with it. I responded and told him that this was also a very bad idea, but that he did not want to listen to me.
Anyway, several months later he texted me again to say that his wife was no longer speaking to him.
“Why the hell not?” I asked.
Because he hadn’t just surprised her with that. No, that was not enough.
He bought a full steel belt, put it on (and nothing else) and then jumped up and surprised her when she undressed to go to bed one night.
It was, she said, something of a shock to her and she spent the rest of the weekend sleeping on the downstairs couch.
I don’t know what happened after that, but while it was quite mischievous of me, I must confess that I laughed when I read her taciturn account of how I had surprised her in the bedroom.
Just a warning for you: we don’t get hints and we don’t want big surprises like that.
Anyway, where were we?
OK … you have had the romantic evening, you have been more attentive without being a pest these last days and both are in the mood to make love and now … as I hope you have already guessed … now you are going to ask Let him practice orgasm denial just this once, just to see what it’s like.
It’s going to be a lot easier than you think. Because practically all couples have enjoyed soft teasing at some point. It’s probably most women’s favorite trick, make your man wait a bit. And if you think about it, male chastity isn’t drastically different from that little game we’ve all played already, right?
One word of warning: if you are a man leading this, should go ahead if you want the urge to work, so you need to behave yourself in the best way. Yeah that probably sounds obvious, but when it comes to the crisis and you have to stop that orgasm and it’s probably something you’ve never done before … well, it’s going to be harder than you think.
What’s more, if you’re the type of man who gets mad at intercourse interrupted, that is a habit that you will have to suppress right now and get out of completely very, very quickly yew you want your partner to adopt the lifestyle of male chastity.
And if you are a woman, perhaps you should convince him by promising that he will be released in the morning, or even right at the end of your “session.”
In general, it’s easier for a man to get a woman interested in male chastity than the other way around, for reasons I’ll cover in a different article.
Above all, don’t take yourself too seriously. I’m serious it is serious business and if things go well, you’re going to make some pretty big and important commitments.
But it is also fun and things can be serious and fun at the same time. What I mean is that you don’t have to be solemn about it and if it doesn’t work out the way you want it to be the first time, there is no need to assume that it will never work.
Like anything worth doing, it takes practice to get it right, and the best way to improve is to keep trying.
So if you accidentally have an orgasm (if you’re the man) or don’t stop it in time (if you’re the woman), it’s no big deal. Take the time to talk and share what was so enjoyable and exciting about it (what better way to rethink an orgasm you didn’t want to have to say “I didn’t mean to do that … but you can see how much you turn me on when we do this, can’t you …?“).
Lastly, be sure to put this in the context of what you want in the long run.
I can’t begin to tell you the difference it makes having your man locked up so he can’t come without your permission … not with you, not alone, not even with someone else.
For me it is the most amazing feeling in the world … and you are about to experience it all for yourself …