Too many men today struggle with self-defeating thoughts about their masculinity. Most of us are victims of the common things of everyday life; mundane, repetitive and extremely lazy. Our society is very dependent on technology, and many of us have lost touch with that primitive, animal-like being within us; our inner man. It doesn’t really matter how we lost touch with him, just that to have lost contact with him. We are the average man of our time. I am here to break away from your primal self and get you in touch with your roots as a man.
1. Get out of your house now. I don’t care if it’s hot, if it’s cold, if it’s wet or if it’s dry. Get out. Part of being a man is getting in touch with your masculinity, and this involves being out in nature. Society has parks for us that I call civilized forests, so why not go off the beaten track a bit? The point of being in nature is to allow you to be at the mercy of the world. Not the mercy of the man-made world you live in from day to day, but the world itself! Nature, weather, cuts and bruises.
Whether or not you prefer to wander an uninhabited mountain range for 100 miles in each direction, or a bit off the trail at your local park, just get out there and learn to love and become one with nature. If you’re more of a hiker, that’s fine too, just get out there and feel what it’s like to be alone with nature. Our ancestors were travelers, risking life and limb traveling through the wilderness with nothing but the backpack on their back and whatever belongings they could carry. Why not give it a try yourself? Of course, you have a home to return to, but that’s beside the point.
2. Give up your crutches, whether it’s alcohol, caffeine, television, computers, food, cigarettes, whatever, it doesn’t matter, give it up for a while and feel what it feels like to need. Once you get your craving, it’s time to transmute it into something productive. This will empower you and allow you to realize that you don’t need material or substance to make you happy or feel normal. Then you will begin to realize that your crutches were keeping you from becoming the man you were meant to be. You must come face to face with your life, you must face it head on and approach it moment by moment. Leave the crutches and walk against the wind. It’s time to face your life, and it’s time to accept that it is the only life you have, and you must attack it with all your might and with a complete sense of yourself. You are a man with a life, you are a man who faces his life and takes control. Get rid of your crutches.
3. Do something you’ve always wanted to do, but have always been afraid to do. It’s time to break the barrier of fear now. Think of something you’ve always wanted to do and go do it. Be realistic here, but also be real about your needs and wants as a man. Whether building a house or skydiving; have to. Discover that fear is your friend and discover that you can handle much more than a “fear” that exists only in your mind. Fear is your friend. Live in it constantly and learn to radiate your masculinity in your fear. I don’t mean sleeping in fear of a graveyard (unless it’s something you’ve always wanted to do), I mean just going out and doing something you’ve been holding back because of this or that. Life is happening right now, so it must happen with her.
4. Live for yourself and follow your desires. You cannot be a man without having a purpose. Men are determined creatures and they always have something new they want or need to accomplish. You must realize your dreams and start heading towards them right away. What’s stopping you? Live for something, and put your wishes on top. Don’t let your life be overwhelmed by your desires and remember to take care of whatever you need to take care of in real life, but for now, find out what you want and make your changes from now on. Do not leave your desires in the background, you will never grow up and you will always have that unsatisfied craving.
5. Push yourself – Get out of the norm. Feel what it’s like to do something you don’t normally do. Seize the opportunity and start taking risks. Be smart with your choices, but also have balls. Life never gives itself to you, and you know that because you’re reading this right now. So instead of waiting for this or that, go out and do what you have to do right now, risky or not. Go do it!
6. Patience, respect, productivity: these are all principles that I follow as a man, they are my code and they are my friends. These are just a part of my code, but they are key to my daily life. Patience is obvious, you must see that patience is really a virtue, and value that virtue. You must see that respect is more than just something you earn, it is something you give. You must see that productivity is the key to life and it will lead you to much more than you can imagine now: stop giving half of yourself to your job, to your wife, to your family, to your life, and start to give it all. When you practice these three basic principles, you will lead a fuller life.
7. Know your life – it will end someday. He knows this every day, and he will begin to see that the decisions he makes on a daily basis will eventually lead to his death. This is for everyone, whether good or bad choices, we all die. The sooner you can overcome your fear of death, the sooner you can start living your life fully. Be a man and I know you’re going to break up someday.
8. Bite the bullet, when necessary. Always remember that when you have to do those things you hate to do, or have to do, it’s better to do them with full presence and productivity than to stay in the slums and wish you could be doing something else. Because face it, you’re not. This goes along with facing your life as it is. Life is what it is, and now you know it, face it.
9. Sweat and bleed: These are two things that many of us avoid. It’s time to get out there and break your back a bit, get dirty and make waves. Get out there and sweat, bleed and push your physical body hard and far, and know that your strength is more in your mind than your body. When you can push your physical body further than you thought, you have achieved more than 90% of people. Nobody pushes themselves anymore these days, be a man and push yourself.
10. Love your woman: One of the most effective ways to feel more like a man than ever is to love your woman, who is very feminine. The more you see the difference between you and her, the more your masculinity will show. Do not fight against your woman, do not get lost in the waves of emotion and love from her. Be a man and guide her, show her that you can handle her and that you can handle her life. She will love you more for this, and she will also feel more feminine, which a woman surely loves. Make your woman feel like a woman, and be a man! Stop agreeing when you disagree, stop being a push. Take your stand and follow what you say. You know what I’m saying when you let your woman take your pants, you can feel it. You feel less masculine because you have relinquished your power. This doesn’t mean that you own your woman or that you’re always right or in charge, but when you need to be a man, you need to step up and be a man. Your woman will feel this and she will love you and she will trust you more. Stop doing what she says just to make her happy so she stops barking at you, do it because she is your woman and you love your woman.
These are my first tips on being a man. Many people have their own ideas about what it is to be a man, this is mine. If you follow these principles, you will soon see a more masculine self emerge; your inner man
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