It almost sounds like a cliché: your girlfriend needs space. Sounds like something you see in a bad romantic comedy. But now you face it, and it’s complicated. Do you give him space? What happens if you don’t? If you give her space, does that mean she will break up with you? Does she really want to break up with you anyway, but is this her way of letting you down easily?
If your girlfriend said she needs space or needs a break, your first instinct might have been to get angry. Maybe the two of you were already in a fight when she told you. Or maybe she took you by surprise out of the blue and now you don’t know what to do. But whatever her situation is, the first thing she should consider is giving her what she wants. It won’t hurt to give her a few days, or even a week or two, so she can sort out her feelings.
But wait, if you give him space, does that mean he’s going to break up with you? Not necessarily. Taking a break from each other is not always a bad thing. In fact, it can give both of you time to think and see what life is like without the other. It can strengthen your relationship once you get back together. Taking distance from your problems can help you see solutions that you didn’t see before because you were too wrapped up in arguments and fights.
In fact, it can push your girlfriend further away if whose give him the space he is asking for. Smothering her in the hope that she will change her mind will make her want to break up with you so she can be alone. Not giving him space can backfire because it will trigger a power struggle. If she doesn’t listen to her, she’ll make you listen to her by breaking up.
What happens if you give your girlfriend space and she doesn’t call you? The best you can do is give him at least a few days without any contact. Usually after a couple of days she will call you herself. But if she doesn’t, then it’s okay to send her a short message and tell her you’re thinking of her. Resist the urge to push her. Just keep it short and sweet and then wait again.