It could be said that they are at least two types of people; those who rarely seek approval and those who seek high approval. When someone falls into the first category, it will be possible for him to live his own life.
The reason for this is that they will not need the go-ahead or receive permission before doing something. So if they have a need to do something, they will be able to fulfill that need.
The ideal
Ultimately, they will be free to express themselves and this will allow them to live a life worth living. They could have been like this for as long as they can remember or, perhaps, it has taken them a while to get to this point.
Either way, they will be able to make the most of their time on this earth. However, although this will be the optimal way to experience life, there are many people who cannot relate to it.
a very different life
For someone like that, almost everything they do will be a way to receive the approval of others. As a result of this, it will not be possible for them to live their own lives.
They will be living a life that matches, and what they think matches, what other people want. Therefore, even if they seem to be happy, this will be nothing more than an act.
Why is that?
For someone to be truly happy, they need to be in touch with their true self and their life to be an expression of it. By focusing on others and what will please them, they will not be able to express their true selves.
However, if they express who they are, it is likely to be the exception rather than the rule. Who they really are, then, will rarely see the light of day, and this will create a lot of pain.
A battle
Still, this is not to say that they will ever come into contact with this pain, because of how they behave. Thanks to the approval they get, they will be able to experience ‘positive’ feelings and thus keep this pain at bay.
Furthermore, it is likely that this entire process takes place without one being aware of what is happening. Ergo, it is not that they are consciously seeking approval; this is something that is occurring just outside of your conscious awareness.
An attention call
In order for them to no longer behave in this way, it will be necessary for them to become aware of what is happening. This perception will have to be something that leaves an indelible mark on them and does not leave their consciousness a short time later.
Once you get to this point, it will allow you to reflect on your life and see that behaving in this way is not serving your highest good. From here, they’ll be able to do something about what’s going on.
The next step
If they get to this point and end up looking for support, they may come to believe that they are behaving this way because they have ‘low self-esteem’. With this in mind, the key will be for them to develop this part of themselves, and this could be seen as something that will be done primarily by changing their thoughts and behaviors.
Taking a step back from what’s going on in your mind, being ‘mindful’, will give you an idea of how you talk to yourself. From here, you will be able to replace your ‘negative’ thoughts with ‘positive’ thoughts.
A process
By having different thoughts, they will be able to feel better and behave differently. This will come down to the fact that your thoughts will be seen to control how you feel.
As the weeks and months go by, you may find that you spend less time seeking approval and more time expressing yourself. On the other hand, this approach may not last or may not work at all.
a closer look
If this approach doesn’t have the desired effect, it’s arguably not much of a surprise. There’s a good chance that your need for approval has very little to do with what’s going on upstairs and a lot to do with what’s going on downstairs, so to speak.
Put another way, your need for approval is likely a sign that your emotional body is not in a good way. This part of them will also be where their inner child will be found.
a time to listen
Now one may be completely out of touch with their inner child, but this part of them will still have a massive impact on their life. During all this time, the needs of your inner child will have merged with your adult needs, preventing you from seeing what was happening.
This childish part of them will carry all the needs that were not met during their childhood years. Many, many years may have passed since they were children, but these needs will have stayed with them and, until recognized, will continue to do so.
a different perspective
What this means is that while they can be seen as having a strong need for approval and this can be seen as a “negative” thing, it would be more accurate to say that the childish part within them is seeking the love and care that it didn’t receive so many years ago. years. To this part of them, approval, acceptance, attention, and validation will look like love.
With this understanding in place, one will be able to get in touch with this part of them and mourn their unmet childhood needs. Without it, they will normally judge themselves and try to change the effects of what is happening.
Awareness
If one can relate to this and is ready to change their life, they may need to seek outside support. This is something that can be provided with the help of a therapist or healer.